Three ways to Fail – Versus – One way to Succeed
When we decide to discuss in two-way conversation – let us first define our terms to discourse.
What is the purpose for our communication?
In that is already the answer you’re speaking for:
Are we to argue?
And by that we aim to out-score by making points stack so we can be seen to win? Is that the game you’re playing. You want a trophy with your ego emblazoned on a golden cup because you value not the unseen treasure of your wiser, self-assured soul; yours is now but a trinket in your grave: of no use, just a waste of effort by a fool. And so, in the end, you lose, game, set, and so check mate to what you’re arguing at.
Are we to wage war?
And we sharpen our words and hurl our anger, frustration, ignorance, hatred to kill our addressee dead. The survivor achieves victory over the blood soaked grounds for debate? Because the truth of what we drone on about must be in the fact that we’ve murdered. Murdered through collateral damage, the very last value worth discussing for.
Are we to abuse?
Because this is even better than death! To torture the ‘other’ right through their brain is what keeps us sane. Once we’ve captured them to our Bagram, Guantanamo prison-style name-calling, we put them in their place; confining them to our inhuman state of mind. Skewering the torment of hell out of them to make them speak words we want them to say. We want them to hear us say: this for the sake of the holy freedom we pray will reign of terror the pain away.
(Succeed 1 Way)
I must tell you: it is best for us to assert.
To express our point of view. By way of just stating your self, naturally.
No harm done?
For you to call out the vocal range of your life’s existential story. Kindle the fire that twinkles in your eyes around the camp light’s vivid glow. Yes – you come to inform, to explain, to describe – like a school-child’s wide-eyed, story-telling of expansive possibilities, newly wrought revelation come star-burst, rocket from the sky. How else to understand the others’ perspective in order to come to know”1 the ‘them’ from the ‘we’, how in fact that ‘you’ is as human as ‘me’.
“O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another”1
Only with this frame of mind, can we seriously consider the value in the concepts within, behind the words beneath the polished screens. Get a glimpse of your painting canvassed in my mind, water-coloured through the words describing the visions in your mind’s eye.
To stop our foolish hostilities through words, that keeps us back, sub-divides. We ought to try at least to make amends by multiplying peace using this only one way of talking straight forward.
Yes, we may disagree. In fact we may even expect disagreement. But then we can try and posit an alternative point of view (not for sophistry’s sake). But for the mutual sake of Truth, if we’re truly convinced of the error in the speaker’s meanings we’re hearing. No harm done.
Without clarity, we have but pieces of mind. But with peace in mind can we truly chew, and consider the real meat in the words fully spoken, holistically.
In the process we might attempt to agree, at least, on what we can rally around. Therein is a noble cause for the sake of Truth. What, if not this, is worth the humane struggle’s fight to forge, then re-forge? When time’s clutter and the usage of our inevitable human foolish derangement have meant we must reassemble. No problem. We will rise to greet the challenge, whether for a godly or a goodly call, one and the same. To unite on points of commonality is a banner worth making, we. And let the differences, we agree to disagree2… well, to let them be…
By Arif uz Zaman
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1“O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allâh is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa (humbleness, piety, love, love of God, fear of God, respect, fearlessness, strength, courage, goodness). Verily, Allâh is All-Knowing, All-Aware.” (Qur’an 49:13)
2“For you is your Way, and for me is my Way” (Qur’an: 109:6)